Trust me, I've experienced this in a variety of ways: I've dealt with having a crush on a roommate who seemed more interested in pursuing my friends than me. I've been low-key annoyed to come home and find my bestie hanging out in my living room when I wasn't the one who invited her there. Staart
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Here's how you can handle those weird feels when worlds collide, and your roommates start becoming friends with your friends. Friendd About Why It Bothers You In The First Place Texas-based counselor Heidi McBain suggests asking yourself some questions about what, precisely, seems to bug you so much about the idea of your friends getting chummy with your roommates.
Get Some Outside Input If you're really struggling with this, and it's bothering you all the time, try to get a little outside perspective on the situation. The fear of being left out in the midst of these newfound friendships is totally normal, but if it friendx something that you just can't shake, McBain says you should find someone totally neutral to give you some advice on the matter. Participate In Activities All Together Giphy Try to participate in some fun with both of them, even if you feel like totally ditching.
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I wrote each challenge down and devoted at least one week to following through on them. The first thing Bayard advised me to do was take inventory of people I know and who they know. Who are the people you sometimes see at the criends parties and share mutual friends, but never have one-on-one conversations? Start there.